1. A narcissistic people desperately needs to feel superior to everyone around him, because inside they don’t feel like they’re good enough. And they react with contempt to anyone who seems to have something they lack.
2. The reason they’re so fragile and self-conscious on the inside and mean and hateful on the outside goes all the way back to childhood. Though researchers admit there might be a genetic component, the truth is that the way a child is growing has a great deal to do with how they turn out.
3. You can’t shame a narcissistic people – they’ll make your life much difficult if you do.
4. Kids who got big responsibilities at early ages are more often narcissists than those who didn’t, whether it was direct responsibility such as for a sibling or indirect such as for the emotional health of a parent. This leads to their adult selves always seeking approval and trying too hard, never allowing themselves to just “be,” rather requiring to be the center of attention.
5.narcissistic people think big – that is, they are grandiose thinkers because they feel like it fills some hole inside themselves.
6. They have a huge sense of entitlement – they think they DESERVE to have what they want without regard for the needs and desires of those around them. 7. They haven’t met a boundary they haven’t crossed, and if you don’t put a stop to it when it begins, they’ll keep crossing until they’ve crossed every boundary you’ve got.
8. If you must confront a narcissistic people do it carefully – they respond best to “empathic validation,” Cosmo says. So you should always “affirm the relationship first before you share anything that doesn’t feel right,” said a psychologist interviewed by the mag.
9. The only thing that might motivate a narcissist to change is having a meaningful consequence for their bad behavior. For example, a healthy narcissist might avoid cheating on a spouse in order to preserve the relationship, because “if the consequences are high enough, they might start to reevaluate their actions.”
10. No matter how intelligent and together a narcissist is in other ways, they are emotional toddlers. Cosmo’s experts both noted that the best way to deal with a narcissist who is raging is to consider them like you would a two-year-old who is throwing a tantrum, and that most of that is just their way of “putting on a show.”